Personal responsibilty

Failure to take personal responsibility for one’s own recovery. This is without a doubt, the biggest reason for recovery failure. You hear it all over, A.A./N.A. doesn’t work, it’s a cult, or the blame it on a person they met there that steered them wrong. So on and so on. Every time I hear how the program doesn’t work. It’s always the same the reason it doesn’t work is always about blaming someone or something. Never do I hear any personal responsibility.
It’s like A.A. /N. A, is supposed to cure them. WRONG the program just shows you how you can recover, it provides the tools. The meetings and the fellowship is just for support by sharing Experience, strength and Hope, along with maybe a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, and the fellowship of shared pain and loss as well as support. You have to take the personal responsibility to do the work, to put in the effort, to face the truths, and to change. The biggest problem with people attempting recovery today is just that. They are always looking for the counsellor, the sponsor the treatment center, the recovery coach to cure them. It doesn’t matter if you have the best treatment center in the world the best sponsor, counsellor, and/or coach in the world. If you are not willing to do the work. Take the suggestions. You will never find recovery.
Or they blame the guy or lady they met in a meeting that used them, or steered them wrong. Again failure to take responsibility for their own actions. Yes there are sick people in the meetings. And guess what, your one of them. Let’s look at reality here for a moment. None of us got to these rooms because we excellent examples of role models, we were all, to some extent liars, cheats, thieves ETC... The same sort of people that you were hanging with on the streets or in the bars. Were you always so stupid on the streets and in the bars to be taken in and conned. Unfortunately everybody in the rooms is not always seeking the same path of being a better person. We are all to one degree or another “Recovering Assholes”. Some are just not able to see it and some are not looking to change.

The point being is if you truly want recovery, you have to do the work, all the program does is give you the best tools in the world to accomplish the job, as well as the support and teachers on how to use the tools and find happiness and support for the struggles along the way. No one, no matter how some may try. Can do the work for you. You need to do the work and hang with the winners.
Remember God does not create garbage