TEDxHouston - Brené Brown

Just for Today// One Day at a Time

Living in today. This helps applying the last post. However the truth is that, like the saying, most of us spend our days either living in the past and/or future, thus with one leg and yesterday and one leg in tomorrow, you are pissing all over today. Today is a gift from God that is why it’s called the present. Ok enough of the clichés, however do you know how a saying becomes a cliché? The test of time has proven it as a truth! Anyways back to the topic at hand. A lot of us spend enormous amounts of time reliving past experiences, mistakes choices. It is all a waste of time! History cannot be changed; perhaps a very small time can be spent constructively learning from the error. However key word small amount. The past is the past; Let the dead bury the dead. There is a very large amount of us who spend far too much time in the future. Dreaming of a better life, instead of creating it today. Worrying about how the kids are going to be able to go to college/university. How this or that is going to get paid. Not to mention the incredible amount of time spent fruitlessly on “what ifs”. You may have an inkling of what the future MAY bring. However in reality you can never fully know. Life can change in an instant! Nobody woke up today planning to fall from a ladder, drown, have a car accident, be hit by a vehicle, slip on a walkway and become paralyzed ETC... In short Life happens. Yes you can spend a LITTLE amount planning for things a vacation, bill payments, retirement and planning a budget, however these are short little chores. Done and over with, occasionally a little time spent re-evaluating and adjusting.

However Life is what happens when you’re planning for it, unfortunately for most, by the time they finish planning and refining their plans for life it is almost over and they have missed the best parts. There are no ordinary moments. Life is NOW. Live it. Experience it. This does not mean that we become irresponsible and live like there is no tomorrow forsaking our familial or financial responsibilities. It means learn how to appreciate today. The encounters with others, including co-workers families, strangers. Notice the sunrise, the sunset, the flowers, and the wind. Live today as if it might be your last, with the capability that it might not be. If you do this you will live this life more fully and abundantly. Because in all reality today is your life PERIOD. Yesterday is history, and nothing you do can change it, and Tomorrow might not come, or might be completely different that anything you would have thought. And if you live today to the fullest. Than tomorrow will take care of itself and you’ll be all set to repeat the procedure of abundance.
Remember God does not create garbage

More on Giving

I want to expound more on this aspect of giving.” It is in giving that we receive.” Nice words, great concept. An idea that is quite easy to grasp, theoretically. However in practice, not so easily grasped and practiced. I mean think of it, no I mean really get into the spirit. Think how wonderful it is at Christmas time, we all look forward to the season. The season of giving. How do you feel when you go wherever you go for Christmas? Most of us there may be a little trepidation, depending on the family situation. However generally we are excited, and the good feelings, warmth and cheer, as everybody is cheery and in giving spirits. How does it feel when you see the look on a person’s face when they are exchanging and opening gifts? There it is the spirit of giving.

We have all either said or heard why everyday can’t be like Christmas. And why can’t we all behave the way people generally behave during the holiday. Well generally after this period people as a general revert right back to their day to day attitudes. Let’s face it for most of us it’s all about what we can get. We do things for what we get in return. It has been ingrained in us, it’s the way our society operates, and it’s all about what you can get. If you do this you’ll get that. How often do you see people, corporations doing something just because it is the right thing to do, without any thought of return? Sadly this is the way most of the world operates. That is why people such as Mother Teresa and the like were so special. This is also why most of us cannot practice a lifestyle of giving. Also why we generally end up depressed and disillusioned, we are always expecting a return and not always receiving the return we expected. Thus keeping us from happiness and reaping the rewards of a “spirit of Giving” can give.
In denying this aspect you’re denying an aspect of your make-up. You are a Child of God, One of the main components of God thus you are Love. To have and truly feel love it must constantly be given.
Remember God does not create garbage

Wanting More

This is an issue that can still plague us in recovery. How many times do you want more love, affection, attention, and understanding from your partner? What about more respect, appreciation from the kids? Or more appreciation, respect, money from employers? A fair shake or bigger piece of the pie from Life? A smaller plate from God. The list can go on. However it is this constant desire for more that keeps us from happiness. Now don’t get me wrong here, this drive for a better life also drives us to be better strive harder ETC... I am not suggesting that you should just give up. My point is rather on how we look at it. Happiness is first off not found from things. This being said and acknowledged the second part to this is learning to be happy with and appreciative with what you have rather than focusing on what you do not have. This will bring greater happiness. I know now you’re sitting there saying “yea sure, easier said than done.” You are right it is easier said than done. Even harder is maintaining this thought pattern.
However my true point of all of this is in the way we go about it. Now you’re probably wondering what in the heck I mean by that. Well let me explain, you have to shift your perception, or more precisely your way of thinking. We have all heard that “it is in giving that one truly receives.” This is the absolute truth, when you are focused on giving, you get >. Let me elaborate a little here, if I concentrate on “giving my love and devotion to my partner, and my children and my work, then the love in me just grows and I am in the middle of the flow of love. You see love, abundance, everything is an energy and when I stop giving this energy in my. It is like a river, when you damn it and stop the flow it begins to back up and stagnate when there is no flow I fell less of the energy. If I continue to give it continues to flow. Thus I feel the constant of the energy. However if I am just giving for the purpose of receiving then I am not really giving thus no returns. Because I have expectations or demands on what I give. When I give freely. It all comes back It is in giving that we truly do receive. However what we receive is fulfillment, joy love, grace, peace, serenity. Once again there are parables about this as well “do not cast your pearls among swine” You have to you the brain Your God gave you and most of all you must trust the Guidance of Your higher power. On how and when to Give and serve.
Remember God does not create garbage

What am I missing??

Hi all. Sorry to all who looked for a posting today. I wrote one last night, however in my rush I had pushed save rather than post. Then I didn’t check. I apologize, hopefully if you needed some inspiration you went and checked out the extensive posts in the archive list down the side of the blog. Enough of yesterday, time to deal with today’s blog. I was thinking of just posting the one I had planned for yesterday. However I’m sure you already figured out that is not the plan or why would I be writing about it. Well you’re right.

I was talking to a dear friend of mine today. Actually I was chatting on Face book, a new experience for me. As I’ve never been into the whole chat thing or the social network stuff, However it is the way of the world now, and we have to adapt ourselves to the world as it will not adapt to me. Seeing as I have preached this, it was time for me to practise it, and learn this new way. But I’m way off point now. As I said I was chatting with a dear friend of mine, and they were sharing that she was working with her sponsee, and she mentioned that her sponsee was having trouble with the fear of missing out on something, doing this recovery bit. Well I know my dear friend could relate to that old lie. I remember watching her battle it. And well that was my life for the longest time. Looking back, I can see now that was one of my biggest problems in life. I was always afraid I was missing something or the party some fun somewhere. I look back at my work history, I used to get jobs easily enough, and then really work hard for one to even as long as three months, earn some respect and even admiration from my employer. Once I had it, or thought they had an idea of how good I could be, and then it started. I’d miss days, be late come in drunk/high. Leave early, basically become totally irresponsible and unreliable. I was missing the party having fun. This would continue until they would pull me aside for “the talk” which I would have excuses and say “yea-yea” and placate them tell them it wouldn’t happen anymore and go back to performing properly and responsibly for maybe a week or two then back to the party, forcing them to eventually firing me. Then I’d wonder why I was such a good employee. The fact was that when I went to work to work and followed what was required I was. However this only happened in the beginning, then I start feeling I was missing out. This was my behaviour/pattern in all aspects of my life, family, friends, relationships children; creditors, everyone and everything involved in my life got the same treatment. I always had to get back to the party, the action, I might miss something, and it got worse the lies grew the length of time grew, the deceits grew, and then the cheating and stealing started. All for the same reason, I might miss something.

In all reality it was this thinking that made me miss something, actually many things. My life, lost my family, lost countless friendships, lost countless relationships, lost kids, lost material possessions of 100s of thousands of dollars, lost credibility, lost my freedom in more ways than one—(jails—freedom of choice now had to drink and/or drug just to get through the day, never mind live with myself) mostly I lost any shred of self respect, self love, self confidence,. Thinking I might be missing something came very close to me losing life, Actually In all reality I should have, many times over. But God had a different plan for me. But for the Grace of my God. I should be doing life or six feet under.
Remember God does not create garbage

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