Being Real

Hello, today I want to discuss another vitally important part of staying clean and sober. I will break it into some different parts. However it all comes back to ---Being Real.

The first part that helps us to become real, and more importantly at ease with self which translate into a feeling of completeness, or wholeness- which basically break down into to you being happier.
This is what one of the processes of doing the steps properly. This process helps us to see who and what we truly are. When we begin to see who and what we have become, without the justifications, rationalizations and lies. We get the truth about ourselves. Not only of what we’ve become, we also see the parts that we have buried, the parts we don’t like, and more importantly the persons we want to be. The first step is seeing the truth for what it is. Then accepting are selves for who we truly are—the good and the bad. This is vitally important. We have to accept are negatives; because they are part of us, to deny the negative is to deny part of ourselves. This doesn’t give us license to be bad or to act out inappropriately. What it does is tells us where we need to concentrate our energies to improve, also what areas we have to guard against. It is information to form better plans, goals ETC... We need not beat ourselves up over our negatives, as I said earlier they are a part of us. We need to accept the part of our nature. Let me validate this for you a little more clearly. We are not saints; no one among us is perfect. No one among us will ever be perfect. I do not believe that any person who has ever lived has been perfect. There may have been one, in all time. I’m not going to get into a debate about religion. However some will say that Jesus was perfect. As I said I am not going to debate this, so I will grant that possibly one person in the whole history of mankind has been perfect. ONE. Not even the saints were perfect the battled with their own shortcomings and demons.
They just had the advantage of knowing them, accepting that those were part of their nature and worked at keeping them in check. A little example from Star Trek (yes now you know I’m a closet trekkie) in an older show Captain Kirk went through the transporter while it had an issue; and thus it created two Kirks, one arrogant, hostile argumentative, controlling you get the picture, while the other was kind, demure, apologetic, indecisive, the point being is neither could be the captain because separate they did not process the traits to be the captain. However they were both part of Kirk, together they made the Captain Kirk that was legendary. Point is the without both parts we are not the person we are supposed to be, We need to accept both parts on the path of learning who we truly are, however this will be a long journey.
One thing that will immensely help on this journey. And bring great joy. Is one of the reasons for meetings and the fellowship. Even though you may find support and understanding in your family. There is nothing like finding a few like minded people travelling the same journey. Who you foster a true friendship and kinship with. A few close friends who will love and accept you even when you’re being an a!@#$%hole. Who will call you on your s!@#t. Who will tell you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it (because that’s what real friends do). People you can be real with. You don’t have to put on the face of a son, daughter, parent, employee, boss. Just being you.
As you find these people and yourself, you will learn how to be the same person whether at work, a meeting, at family dinner or wherever and they will all be the same person and this person will be far far happier, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Remember God does not create Garbage