Another aspect of living sober that will stand you apart and make your sobriety more secure is the aspect of Honesty. Now I know you've already looked at honesty and are working hard at being honest. However what we are talking about is living honestly. Wnich is multi faceted, however once you can do this your chances of staying clean and sober will increase a hundred fold. The first aspect you already know about , being and speaking honestly, now that doesn't mean being mean or hurting another's feeling and blaming honesty there you can learn tact. I'm yalking about the regular stuff , like everybody cheats a little on their taxes or nobody tells the truth on surveys, the what has become "white lies" or acceptable untruths. for us this just starts a trend that we can extend as needed till we are back to our old lying ways which is back to cheating our value systems which undermines, our self worth and self condemnation. which enables us to go back to using.
Honesty is a effort in the beginning because in all reality there are whole aspects where we were not honest our whole lives. and let's face facts the society uses honesty only when iy benefits. We must make the effort after a time it will not be such an effort and the benefit are a wonderful feeling you will enjoy and all around your life will respect.
As well as living honesttly is not living in dishonest situations. You know the ones.
Living with integrity is living honestly, Not that you'll find alot of examples in our society. However you can be one. It is simply startedlet the person you are at meetings, and with your sponsor be the same person who is with the family and the same person at work, stop wearing masks or different roles, be who you honestly are, now this doesn't mean you do 5th steps at work and at the mall with strangers . It simply means be who you are with out putting on airs or pretending. Another way is Really consider everything you are asked befor agreeing, IE call me or lets go for coffeee friday or saturday can you give me ride to... Don't immediately say yes then later think of ways to get out of iy, or just blow it off, perhaps just saying i'll need to get back to you or call me later i'm not sure if i've got something planned. Make your YES Mean Yes and Your no mean No. People will respect this and you will respect yourself for this little trait. No matter whatever happens your word can never be taken from you make it worth something. Nothing will be respected more than your friends and families being able to trust you, and this they will do if they know absolutely that they can trust YOUR WORD, that when you say something they can trust it. The only way to build that trust is making sure that your yes means yes no matter what and your no mreans no no matter what.
Remember god does not make garbage
Real 12 Step Recovery
Real 12 Step Recovery, Getting and Staying Clean and Sober
WELCOME Hi There, this blog will be about what I believe to be REAL RECOVERY not band aids or feel good BS These are the hard cold true facts that I have learned and been taught by OLD TIMERS and People WHO HAVE REMAINED CLEAN and SOBER and "GOT A LIFE".There will be no original thoughts here, Because in essence there are no original thoughts only perhaps originals and/or different ways to present or illustrate old Ideas.Now that this is understood lets get to the heart of the matter. Recovery is not about coddling or enabling. IT IS LIFE CHANGING. PERIOD WELCOME to the hardest thing that you will do in YOUR LIFE. Make no mistake, Real recovery is not EASY, it is simple, very simple, Yet you will make it hard, as all before you have. Also let's get this STRAIGHT right off the top. REAL RECOVERY has nothing to do about ALCOHOL and/or Drugs. IT IS about the way you react to life, your perceptions, and YOUR actions. Alcohol and/or Drugs are just a symptom of YOUR disease. Take notice of the word DISEASE - Which in our case translates to ILL AT EASE or simply not at ease, which is the basic nature of our problem and answer to our solution.Back to why I state that this is the hardest thing you will do. I state this because Real Recovery Will challenge everything you know/believe or really what you think you know, Because you really don't know SHIT or you wouldn't need recovery. It will make you face the truth about your biggest problem YOU and YOUR THINKING. You will face the real you not the one we would like to see with all the justifications and rationalizations just the TRUE YOU.REMEMBER GOD DOES NOT CREATE GARBAGE >>>>>>>> If you have a request or enquiry Please Email me at wiledchild@live.ca I'd like to add one other thing here for all those who read this Blog. It's something that was taught to me That was invaluable to my recovery My Spiritual Advisor Taught me this. Don't believe a word I say , do not take what I say as the truth just because I say it or anybody else, for that matter. Check it out for yourself. Try it on for size. Investigate , find out for YOURSELF only use what you have read or heard as a reference point. Find the truth out for yourself . This way it is your TRUTH not someone else's. You will also not be believing a lie or untruth if you always check things for yourself . Do not believe everything you are told or read without checking it out.
Monday, September 6, 2010
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