Being The Victim No More

The role of Victim (poor me) is a favourite for many of us. There are so many benefits we can ascertain by playing the role of the victim.
We automatically gain self-worth. As a victim, we are the one to whom injustice is/or done, thus others are unjust, incorrect, not okay, and wrong . Meaning, we are just, okay, good and right. We are the righteous. Many who do not have healthy self-esteem find this as the only way to establish their own self-worth, by being the victims of others' wrong doings. As victims, we can play on the others' pity and guilt. When they are angry and/or frustrated with us, we can diminish this by playing the weak, abused person. When we want something from someone, we use guilt and pity. As victims, we are not responsible for our reality, and thus not to blame if we or our lives are not in good condition. We have an excuse for not being okay or meeting our potential. As a result, we get what we want from the others by making them feel sorry for us and by making ourselves seem weak, incapable and in need of help. The victim thrives on being unhappy it keeps their role justified
In 95% of situations or things that have happened in our lives, we have played a part, no matter how small, there is a part we played, perhaps even a higher percentage. Yes there are situations that we had no part, or did not deserve what happened. And in no way does this condone any actions by others. However my point is, that by playing the victim, takes away our power. By playing the blame game and playing the victim, we put all the responsibility on others and relieve us of all responsibility and in doing so eliminate any chance for healing. We need to take responsibility for our lives, for our recovery and for our healing. In this way we empower ourselves for the ability to make choices, choosing to take responsibility for our life. Taking control and responsibility for our lives is the only way to find healing, recovery and happiness. If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes and there is no growth, no growth, no recovery, no recovery, no happiness.

Remember God does not create garbage