More On Step Four

To continue, Step four is crucial for the development of A New Life of Happiness and Freedom, As the step Suggests -- To Be Searching and Fearless, We discussed the Fearlessness in the previous post, The Need for courage to be searching, The aspect of courage is not necessarily without some trepidation or fear it is facing the fear and doing it anyway. As previously discussed in earlier post . If you have followed the previously outlined path , then You have done a thorough Step 1, 2, and 3 As well as cultivated a support system, then when used you will have the courage, strength, and support to fully face this step.

The aspect of searching is to clear all the demons that have resided in our subconscious and inner being, where the fear, the self doubts, the low self esteem, the shame, the guilt, the lies we believed all reside. These Lies Need to be faced and let go, As these are the things that keep us mired in a life of darkness. These lies and half truths govern our thinking patterns and RULE our decision making. It is imperative to take control of this area of our thinking, to face the demons, the self imposed prisons, Destroy the demons and lies and half truths. We must face the truths of ourselves, not the imagined ones we have from half truths lies and fears. To see that we are just A Child of God who has been misguided. As well as see who we truly are for to work on anything we need to see how it truly operates. We need to see ourselves not the the Lies we believed.

Another important aspect of this step is the need to be IMMEDIATELY followed by a complete Step Five. I would strongly suggest that prior to beginning the work of step four . That you set up an appointment for a Step Five 2-3 weeks at most . To empty, rid yourself of the negativity the you will dredge up. Step Five may be done with your Sponsor, A doctor, A Minister, Priest Rabbi. Some people feel more inclined to use a "professional secret Keeper" for their first step five as they is still have trepidation. This is actually not a bad Idea, it helps in doing a thorough Step five and ridding all the negative, otherwise their is the tendency to hold a little back , which can be self defeating.

As for how to do Step Four---- The A.A. Big Book has specific instructions on how to do a step four, As well N.A. has a specific work book on how to specifically do Step Four, Most all 12 Step Programs have A work sheet and/or instructions on their perspective aspects of each individual fellowships. Their is also the much used Novelco series. I suggest you consult your support system to ask how they did their step fours. If needed you may use the above email and contact me for more specific direction and/or step four guide.

REMEMBER GOD DOES NOT CREATE GARBAGE